Navigating the Emotional Roller Coaster: How to Start a New Relationship After a Breakup
Deciding to end a significant romantic relationship is very difficult and often involves considerable psychological suffering, a roller coaster of emotions, and a desire to return to the loved one. Regardless of the reason for the breakup or how long the relationship lasted, the time needed to "survive" the breakup is crucial for moving forward and dealing with the emotional roller coaster that accompanies this period. In this post, I want to show how to survive the time after a breakup and what is important to create a new, happy relationship – first with yourself, and then with another person.
The Breakup – What Next? Mourning After a Breakup Has an End
Anger, bursts of rage, despairing tears, and then convincing oneself that "I can manage and everything is still ahead of me," only to return to the abyss of bleak visions of one’s own future shortly after. Such a mix of emotions at first glance resembles a wild ride on a roller coaster, speeding up and down. However, when it comes to a relationship with a close person and the breakup, even if we think we are ready for that moment, we involuntarily board this roller coaster. And we might even say that we are forcibly pushed into it just before it accelerates. Without properly fastening our seatbelts and knowing what awaits us around the bend, we let life turn upside down.
Just like in nature, in life, something must first fall apart so that it can later slowly come together again. However, all of this takes time and immense mindfulness of our emotions, of which there are so many after the breakup of a relationship. Each demands attention and care. It is important, therefore, to calmly live through our mourning, grieve it, and allow ourselves to be sad, which will undoubtedly be accompanied by fatigue, powerlessness, and even despair. Do not fear anger, which may eventually arise towards the ex-partner, as well as towards oneself or other people. The anger that may grow over time is necessary to vent emotions and let go of what is behind us into the abyss of memories.
The moment of letting go and acceptance indicates that the journey on the emotional roller coaster is coming to an end. When we understand that what is over is behind us, peace begins to appear in our soul and body, and the fear of loneliness slowly gives way to hope for starting a new relationship after the breakup.
When Life Opens Us Up to New Possibilities: Entering a Relationship After a Breakup
A breakup always happens for a reason, which lies not in one person, but in the entire relationship that unfolds between people. They create a system that at some point loses stability, and the losses incurred by partners begin to outweigh the potential benefits. Under no circumstances, however, should we treat the breakup as a loss and the end of a happy life. It is important that we draw lessons from previous relationships and take responsibility for our mistakes. Only this will allow us to work through them and avoid repeating destructive patterns in the next relationship.
Let's also remember to always close the previous chapter before starting a new relationship after a breakup and mark it with a clear line. Let's try to sort out our emotions, understand them, and delve into what we really expect from a partner and the next relationship. Are we able to set boundaries and admit to mistakes? Are we capable of facing relationship problems and dealing with them? There may be many more questions, but only the answers will show us if we are ready to board the life roller coaster again – this time with full awareness of the path the ride should take, and with peace in our hearts, because we embark on it at the right time and with the right person.
